Falling in Love

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By Terence T. Gorski
Author, Gorski Books

What do the words “fall in love” mean to you?

Everyone uses the term. Sometimes I think I’m the only one who doesn’t really know what it means.

To me FALLING IN LOVE is “a state of temporary insanity marked by intense feelings of euphoria and the inability to see your partner realistically.”

I’ve noticed that when most people fall in love they are not thinking rationally in the moment. They make decisions based upon emotion, are highly suggestible, and often feel an urgency to make long-term commitments so their euphoric feelings of “being in love” will last forever.

When the “euphoric trance of infatuation” breaks, which it always does, the two people can begin to see each other realistically. Only then can they make rational decisions about their compatible. Sometimes a solid state of attraction, passion, compatibility, and mutual respect emerge after the infatuation ends. Sometimes not.

It is often best not to make long-term binding commitments during the early relationship stage marked by euphoric passion. Enjoy yourself and the relationship for what it is. Is it true love with your predestined soul-mate? Only time will tell!

If you are in recovery from addiction be cautious when you fall in love. The intensity of passion of falling in love and the depression and disillusionment of breaking up are common triggers for relapse.

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Making commits too early in a relationship based primarily upon the intense feelings of infatuation can can serious long-term life problems for both partners.

For guidelines about conducting sober and responsible relationships in recover read GETTING LIVE RIGHT – THE CHOICES OF HEALTHY INTIMACY and listen to the lecture upon which the book was based.

Book: Getting Love Right

The Recorded Lecture: Addictive Relationships

3 Responses to Falling in Love

  1. I completely agree with you, although I have never heard “love” described so unemotional before.

  2. Teresa says:

    To me FALLING IN LOVE is “a state of temporary insanity marked by intense feelings of euphoria and the inability to see your partner realistically.” 😛
    in my thinking, “falling in infatuation” is temporary insanity. Love in it’s purity is realistic revelation….not delusion. thanks. (perhaps one definition of “love” and how they practice it is “subjective” here.

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