By Terence T. Gorski
We all make choices, but within the limits of the cards we are dealt at birth and the previous decisions we have made.
Recovery is the process of trading in one set of problems for a better set of problems.
As we get better at living a sober and responsible life, the range of choices that are available to us tends to increase. In early recovery many of the choices we face are between the bad (keep drinking drugging and die) and the less bad (stop drinking and drugging and suffer the pain of withdrawal and the pain of facing the consequences of addiction). As we advance in recovery we expand our choices to between good and bad. Eventually we get to where we are making positive choices between “good and better. ”
Unfortunately, our choices are always within limits. Some of the limits are self-created and exist purely with our own minds. Others are very real limits based upon our circumstances of birth, time of history in which we live, the consequences of previous decisions we have made, and the quality of information and role modeling available to us.
Choices – yes, but within limits. Hence the Serenity Prayer: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”