March 15, 2018

Anger is just a human feeling. It is how we manage our anger that determines its consequences. We tend to become angry when faced with a threat to ourselves or those we love. This anger directs our attention and motivates action. Whether that action makes us more or less safe depends upon our training in managing our anger with words and behaviors appropriate to the threat or situation triggering the anger.


The truth is hard to find. The human brain is the ultimate instrument of self deception. click on denial.

The Samurai, the Japanese warriors who many believe are the best in the world refuse to fight when angry because they believe it inhibits their combat skills. The seek to fight from a state of peaceful centeredness. This requires years if not lifetimes of training.

“Anger management is a critical skill for all addiction professionals. These online courses from SAMHSA are important resources.” ~ Terence T. Gorski (The Publications of Terence T. Gorski)

Anger is only a human emotion that is neither right or wrong, it just IS! If we let it go it will pass without harming us, if we act on it we are trying to take control. CONTROL, the most devastating symptom of codependency and the root of all of our addictions!

Anger is just a human feeling. It is how we manage our anger that determines its consequences. We tend to become angry when faced with a threat to ourselves or those we love. This anger directs our attention and motivates action. Whether that action makes us more or less safe depends upon our training in managing our anger with words and behaviors appropriate to the threat or situation triggering the anger.


The truth is hard to find. The human brain is the ultimate instrument of self deception. click on denial.

The Samurai, the Japanese warriors who many believe are the best in the world refuse to fight when angry because they believe it inhibits their combat skills. The seek to fight from a state of peaceful centeredness. This requires years if not lifetimes of training.


March 15, 2018

Perception and memory allow us to become aware of and store sensory information.

Knowing that the Information we store in our brain/mind is important requires us to be consciousness of ourselves, others, and the world around us.

Striving for higher levels of consciousness drives the brain/mind to develop language.

Language allows us to reach out and communicate with other human beings. Language and hence information is always shaped by culture, which is the containing frame of language.

Information, like truth itself, wants to be free to move from mind to mind.

It is as if the truth has a life of its own struggling to expand human consciousness until it can be fully grasped by the human brain/mind.

The search for truth seems to be the most basic drive of human consciousness.

Fear and It’s Variations 

September 10, 2017

Look at all the worry you could have wasted getting to this point in dealing with the hurricane. 
Worry is fear of being afraid. Anxiety is fear of being afraid. 

Fear is a signal that there might be a threat and we should check out. 

If there is a threat, the fear converts into either anger (to fight), fear (to run), or ambivalence ( to hunker down and shelter in place). Anxiety and fear are friends because they alert us to potential danger. Worry is a impotent waste because it focus us upon a fog of immobility. 

Old vs. Young 

September 10, 2017

Checking out at the store, the young cashier suggested to the much older lady that she should bring her own grocery bags, because plastic bags are not good for the environment.The woman apologized to the young girl and explained, “We didn’t have this ‘green thing’ back in my earlier days.”

The young clerk responded, “That’s our problem today. Your generation did not care enough to save our environment for future generations.”

The older lady said that she was right — our generation didn’t have the “green thing” in its day. The older lady went on to explain:

Back then, we returned milk bottles, soda bottles and beer bottles to the store. The store sent them back to the plant to be washed and sterilized and refilled, so it could use the same bottles over and over. So they really were recycled. But we didn’t have the “green thing” back in our day.

Grocery stores bagged our groceries in brown paper bags that we reused for numerous things. Most memorable besides household garbage bags was the use of brown paper bags as book covers for our school books. This was to ensure that public property (the books provided for our use by the school) was not defaced by our scribblings. Then we were able to personalize our books on the brown paper bags. But, too bad we didn’t do the “green thing” back then.

We walked up stairs because we didn’t have an escalator in every store and office building. We walked to the grocery store and didn’t climb into a 300-horsepower machine every time we had to go two blocks.

But she was right. We didn’t have the “green thing” in our day.

Back then we washed the baby’s diapers because we didn’t have the throw away kind. We dried clothes on a line, not in an energy-gobbling machine burning up 220 volts. Wind and solar power really did dry our clothes back in our early days. Kids got hand-me-down clothes from their brothers or sisters, not always brand-new clothing.

But that young lady is right; we didn’t have the “green thing” back in our day. 

Back then we had one TV, or radio, in the house — not a TV in every room. And the TV had a small screen the size of a handkerchief (remember them?), not a screen the size of the state of Montana. In the kitchen we blended and stirred by hand because we didn’t have electric machines to do everything for us. When we packaged a fragile item to send in the mail, we used wadded up old newspapers to cushion it, not Styrofoam or plastic bubble wrap. Back then, we didn’t fire up an engine and burn gasoline just to cut the lawn. We used a push mower that ran on human power. We exercised by working so we didn’t need to go to a health club to run on treadmills that operate on electricity.

But she’s right; we didn’t have the “green thing” back then.

We drank from a fountain when we were thirsty instead of using a cup or a plastic bottle every time we had a drink of water. We refilled writing pens with ink instead of buying a new pen, and we replaced the razor blade in a r azor instead of throwing away the whole razor just because the blade got dull.

But we didn’t have the “green thing” back then.

Back then, people took the streetcar or a bus and kids rode their bikes to school or walked instead of turning their moms into a 24-hour taxi service in the family’s $45,000 SUV or van, which cost what a whole house did before the”green thing.” We had one electrical outlet in a room, not an entire bank of sockets to power a dozen appliances. And we didn’t need a computerized gadget to receive a signal beamed from satellites 23,000 miles out in space in order to find the nearest burger joint.

But isn’t it sad the current generation laments how wasteful we old folks were just because we didn’t have the “green thing” back then?

Please forward this on to another selfish old person who needs a lesson in conservation from a smart ass young person.

We don’t like being old in the first place, so it doesn’t take much to piss us off… Especially from a tattooed, multiple pierced smartass who can’t make change without the cash register telling them how much.


May 21, 2017

by Terence T. Gorski
May 21, 2017

Recovery is a complex and multifaceted process that develops and strengthens over time. It is not the event of stopping.


Addiction, defined here as the repeated act of drinking and drugging that brings undesired pain an problems is not an event. It is a complex and multifaceted process that has one primary purpose — to keep the process going.

Addiction is a complex process with many moving parts and a capacity to self-repair. The goal of addiction is to keep the addictive process going. It does this by using many things, like bad habits that make you hungry, tired, and stressed, that have nothing directly to do drinking and drugging.

Addiction also takes at least partial control of the most powerful computer on earth — the human brain-mind creates and uses non-drug components of the addiction process to put us into events where drinking and drugging seem like a good things. 

The non-drinking/drug parts of the addiction process use parts include things like: 

  • denial,
  • withdrawal,
  • craving,
  • addictive thinking, 
  • addiction-centered lifestyles (hanging around people, places, and things that make it easy to use again by making us miserable. This is often called a dry drunk. 

Remember, the only goal of the addiction process is to keep you in the endless pursuit of creating more drinking and drugging events. 
Unless you have learned about these other parts of the addiction process stay hidden causing you so much pain and problems in recovery that using alcohol and other drugs seems like a good idea. The you can plug the numerous different drinking and drugging events back into the overall addictive process. 

I hope that you can see that just stopping one or even a series of drinking/events won’t permanently stop the addiction process. Stopping the even of drinking and drugging may seem to temporarily interrupt the process, but you can be sure that other hidden parts of the addiction process are at work creating so much pain m, problems, and opportunities that it’s only a matter of time that “the right” and perfectly safe delinking/drugging event presents itself. 

As a result, I believe that stopping drinking and drugging is necessary but insufficient for long-term meaningful recovery. Unfortunately there is much more to to recovery than just “not drinking and drugging. 

Long-term meaningful and comfortable recovery, called sobriety requires three things: 

1. We must understand the entire addiction process, developing skills for managing each part of it. 

2. We must replace the Addiction Process with a RECOVERY PROCESS that allows us to manage pain, solve problems, and finding meaning and purpose in life. The recovery process must become an habitual ways of living that supports abstinence, discourages substance use, and gives us the tools to be physically, psychologically, socially, and spiritually.

3. We must learn relapse prevention skills. 


Relapse is the process of becoming dysfunctional in recovery and failing to use our recovery tools to stop the process. 

Relapse often starts with getting stuck in recovery. There is something we need to do to keep our recovery stable, but we don’t do it. Why? 

We either don’t notice what’s going and how dangerous it is. Or else we see what’ happening but for some reason we either can’t we’re not capable), won’t (we refuse to try), or we don’t know how and refuse to learn. 

We go into denial,we use magical and addictive thinking to make ourselves believe it will just go away. Then we experience unmanageable feelings and emotions like anger, shame, guilt and resentment. 

These feelings stat to eat us up on the inside and we start losing our sense of meaning and purpose in recovery. We may start thinking of drinking and activated alcohol and drug craving. 

We want to have some fun by bong around people, places, and things where alcohol and drugs are easy to get. We feel a compulsion, called addiction seeking behaviors, which make us want to to around these high risk situations, and eventually we start using again.

Recovering people can learn to recognize and manage these early warns signs of relapse. They can also learn to recognize and manage high risk situations that activate craving, remove support for recovery, and feeds them false promises that addictive use will make everyone better, at least for awhile. 


This is the false promise of addiction: Addictive use will take away my pain and solve my problems. 

Addictive use can only make us feel better for a little while. It cannot really make anything better. The longer we stay addicted the more we need to drunk and drug to get the feeling we want. 

Our tolerances rises and eventually, there is no way to get the relief we found in the early days of our addiction. We begin needing to drug or use drugs that don’t even make us feel good for a little while. 

We find ourselves trapped once again in our addiction. Why? 

The answer is simple yet painful. It’s because of something that we either did or did’t do that is described in the article above. 

That’s all well and good, but before we can search out what went wrong and fix it, we have to stop drinking and drugging. And to stop may require detox. 

As so often happens in addiction, we went around the circle and did the minimum to get by. Then a big change that causes stress hits us and our old addictive habits and ways of thinking and managing emotions come back. 

We loose our perspective, are to shamed or afraid to ask for help. We pretend everything is OK until suddenly we’re trapped in an addictive crisis that we can’t manage. 

Live Sober – Be Responsible – Live Free 

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May 21, 2017

By Terence T. Gorski, May 21, 2017

Life goes on! As my life moves into its final chapter, I realize that two great challenges face me:
1. Organizing and archiving in an easily understandable and useable way, the great archive of organized knowledge and useable skills about recovery technology and relapse prevention that I have spent over 45 years of my career developing so it can be readily available for future generations. (I have begun this project at; and

2. To set up an ongoing international movement to transmit this RECOVERY AND RELAPSE PREVENTION TECHNOLOGY to the next generations of clinicians. 

3. To motivate them to deeply understand and build upon these principles and practices by integrating it with their personal clinical skills and program styles, so they My continue to improve it based upon based upon their personal experiences and continued completion and application of research. 

As your life goes on, please consider joining me in moving these final challenges of my career forward. If you wish to join me please forward your email to

DSM 5: Simple Procedure for Evaluating Addiction 

August 15, 2016

The DSM 5 allows clinicians to specify how severe the substance use disorder is, depending on how many symptoms are identified.
MILD: Two or three symptoms indicate a mild substance use disorder;
MODERATE: Four or five symptoms indicate a moderate substance use disorder, and
SEVERE: Six or more symptoms indicate a severe substance use disorder. 

DSM: Severe Addiction
SEVERE: six or more symptoms indicate a severe substance use disorder. Clinicians can also add “in early remission,” “in sustained remission,” “on maintenance therapy,” and “in a controlled environment.” 
Here are the eleven symptoms (DSM Criteria):

Substance use disorders span a wide variety of problems arising from substance use, and cover 11 different criteria:
1. Taking the substance in larger amounts or for longer than the you meant to

2. Wanting to cut down or stop using the substance but not managing to

3. Spending a lot of time getting, using, or recovering from use of the substance

4. Cravings and urges to use the substance

5. Not managing to do what you should at work, home or school, because of substance use

6. Continuing to use, even when it causes problems in relationships

7. Giving up important social, occupational or recreational activities because of substance use

8. Using substances again and again, even when it puts the you in danger

9. Continuing to use, even when the you know you have a physical or psychological problem that could have been caused or made worse by the substance

10. Needing more of the substance to get the effect you want (tolerance)

11. Development of withdrawal symptoms, which can be relieved by taking more of the substance.

Take an alcohol and drug use history. Then ask the patient if he/she has ever experienced this (the symptom/criteria). Keep going between the patient’s discussion of each criteria and what they reported in the alcohol and drug use history. 
Then you can add a recovery specifier. They offer four options: 

Clinicians can also add one of four specifiers 

1. In early remission,

2. In sustained remission,

3. On maintenance therapy (such as methadone or Suboxone);

4. In a controlled environment (such as detox, residential living, sober living home, jail/prison, etc.)

Try it with patient or in a group and let me know how it goes by posting on my Facebook Page: 

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